We Go Boldly Podcast

EPISODE 101: Letting go of outcomes and control in order to embrace our power

Episode Summary

Today on We Go Boldly Rielly and Tovah talk about letting go of outcomes and urge to control ourselves, our environment, other people in order to feel safe and okay. We have the capacity to focus on our inner voice, who we are at our core, and how we can bring that person out into the light.

Episode Notes

Today on We Go Boldly Rielly and Tovah talk about letting go of outcomes and urge to control ourselves, our environment, other people in order to feel safe and okay. So often we struggle with the feeling that we can direct and control the universe by will, by demand, by gripping tightly to our expectation of what ought to be. 

 

This episode examines why we want to control things and people (hello fear), and how we cling to preconceived outcomes rather than accepting where we actually are right now. We walk through the science and concepts around why we need to let go of control and why it can feel so challenging to do so. Throughout this conversation we consider the ins and outs of how we often find ourselves in a cycle of clinging to outcomes, and then feeling shame, disappointment, remorse, and a multitude of other feelings when the outcome is not what we expected. 

 

Finally, we walk through a number of ways we can help ourselves let go of outcomes and put down the burden of trying to control uncontrollable people, environments, and things. We start with acceptance of where and who we are, move to letting go of our perfectionist tendencies, and end with naming our inner tyrants. When we take the time to feel our feelings, and focus on what we actually can control; our actions and reactions, then we have space, energy and time to embrace our power. We have the capacity to focus on our inner voice, who we are at our core, and how we can bring that person out into the light. 

GO BOLDLY HOMEWORK

  1. Let’s take some time to examine what outcomes we are attached to and what tools we can use to help ourselves surrender and let go of outcomes. 
  2. Share with us how you do and let us go if we can help.

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